Fuck Yeah, Disingenuous Liberal

That isn’t me! I’ve tested it in both ways. Without putting anything into the caption box, there is no alt text. However, tumblr puts the caption into the alt text automatically. If anyone has found a way to get around this, please let me know. But I’d rather be redundant than not have any caption at all.

I put the captions in so that people using text only browsers (such as people who are blind) can still understand what is being said. We may be able to see the picture, but we shouldn’t shut them out of the conversation because they cannot.

So, in real life, I am involved in a lot of “liberal” and “activist” circles, whatever that means. I try to stay committed to actually progressive and activist circles, but not everyone in them is gonna be someone who has done a lot of unpacking of their own prejudices. Even if you do, you can still fuck up. Full disclosure, I am white, and I am doomed to fuck up, and part of actually being an ally is accepting that you are gonna fuck up, and when people call you out, you have to apologize and try and not fuck up again. Learn from your actions, you know?

But a lot of the people I talk to about their fuck ups are often friends of mine, so I have to go about it gently. Otherwise they are often lovely people, so I have to take their delicate fee fees into concern, and pet them and lovingly cuddle them into realizing WOW THAT IS FUCKED UP. Thankfully, a lot of them have left that phase but a ton of them are still stuck in, “But I’m an Ally!!” phase. Aka “I’m such a wonderful and amazing Ally how could I possibly have fucked up and to prove I didn’t I will fight you every step of the way” phase.

I don’t know you, so while I am sure you have delicate fee fees, I am probably not going to cuddle and swaddle them as much. Part of it is I am pissed off about something else, part of it is your ask pissed me off incredibly. But take this with the utmost of politeness:

Short answer: YES.

Longwinded Answer: Trying to hide behind “keeping it real” and claim that you just really do care about all those brown queer trans* disabled (etc) people living well leads me to believe you are probably just trying to excuse all the time you were a douchebag to people and knew it and patted yourself on the back about it by ~being true to yourself.~

Here is the news: as we are all raised in a racist, sexist, heterosexist, cissexist, ableist, etc world, keeping it “real” to ourselves before we do all sorts of unpacking means that we are all gonna be oppressive douchebags to each other. SURPRISE!

By asking if I think you being the same as this meme makes you a bad person tells me you already know you are a bad person. It’s just, like most privileged people, you don’t like to know this or feel guilty, so you are asking me to reassure you and be all “Oh my sweet lovely Twinkletoes” and tell you that you are delightful and wonderful and shit rainbows and kittens and can do no wrong! And of course, even if you DID sound like the meme once in awhile, it’s just part of your charm or something!

I don’t know you, so I can’t tell you that you are a Bad Person (tm), but I know you are being a shitty person because you’re trying to get someone else to help you wiggle out of your guilty feelings. And if you sound like this meme, you’re being shitty because you engage in this sort of oppression daily.

Do everyone oppressed on the planet a favor and self-educate and learn so that you can stop doing this shit. That will be your first step towards being a good person. Also don’t be douchenozzle and go whine at me or some other person to teach you. There are 3485309853098530985309854 blogs out there with 101 topics. Use the Google machine.